Are you conventional ? Non-conventional ? Leading with your subconscious ? The difference can make or break success.

Today is Memorial Day.  I decided to take little quiet time and begin reading the first 5 chapters of a book written by Colin Christopher … Success Through Manipulation.

To some, the visualization of the word “manipulation” may be seen as harsh or scary.  However, his book is more about manipulating your own mind.  The way you think.  The way you see things.  How most folks are allowing their conscious mind to be in control, even when it is hurting them !

Colin provides 5 free chapters online and if you want to read the rest, you will need to purchase his book.  Over my next few entries on my blog, I plan to summarize his 5 chapters.  If you decide you do not want to wait for my next summary, you can locate his book online or go here:  www.SuccessThroughManipulatonBook.com

 

Mental tools for the Laws of manipulation.

These laws of manipulation are affecting you, daily !  Your thoughts, beliefs, and habits.

If you keep thinking and doing the same, you will have the same outcome.

To change, you have to change your thoughts, beliefs and habits.

Begin by thinking successful !  Then you’ll become more like the successful !

How do successful people think ?

Through out his book, he will refer to the “Conventional” and “Non-Conventional” thinker !

Conventional is predictable and instinctual; what is socially acceptable.  The poor to average person is conventional.

Unconventional, consciously evaluates the environment and people.  This is how high performers think.

Laws of manipulation is determined by your differences in thinking.

Conventional thinkers think manipulation is bad.

Unconventional, do not think the word is bad.  It’s the “outcome” of whether it’s negative or positive.  It’s the “action” that you take.  It’s how you use manipulate to make an outcome, is what is  positive or negative.

For those who think they don’t they ever manipulate … If you drive, you are manipulate the steering wheel of your car, or you will crash.

If you want to be successful, the Laws of manipulation can create better results and better success.  Choosing to change your thinking can be difficult.  However, The Laws of Manipulation can change your thinking. 

 

Chapter 1

How your mind Works !
The Law of Subconscious Habit.

Your subconscious forms habits.

The subconscious is like the hard drive on your computer.  It stores information.

It responds to stimuli that comes from instinct or learned experiences.

The conscious is not aware when you respond habitually to your subconscious.

The subconscious only perceives and responds in the present.

Your subconscious will continue to respond the same way, unless you change it.

Example.  Unless you change the program on your computer, the same info will keep coming up.

Your subconscious provides real and imaginary.  It does not know the difference.  Therefore, what you think and imagine programs your subconscious.

Learn more by reading the “The Biology of Belief” by Dr Bruce Lipton.

Think about tying your shoe laces.  At first, you concentrated with your conscious mind.  Today, your subconscious naturally ties these laces without even thinking about it.

When 1^st driving, again you concentrated, on doing everything right and not wrecking.  But today, driving is natural for you.

These 2 examples are real stimuli.  Now think about imagine stimuli.  You’re watching a scary movie.  There is nothing in the room that can harm you, yet you are clinching your teeth or possible shaking, with one eye closed.  This fear is your subconscious.  Your subconscious is responding to fear.  It’s an habitual response.  Imagined fear yet real response.

Conventional thinks spend most of their time performing habitual responses.  What they have allowed to get into their subconscious is what is controlling most of their lives !   There’s very few experiences that can change their thinking.

Conventional thinkers are actually followers.  They are slaves to their habits.  Stay more in the drone-zone (same ol’ same ol’ stage).

Unconventional thinkers are usually leaders and creators.  They spend their time gaining new experiences, through physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual development.  Their thinking evolves and changes over time.  Provides new programing for the subconscious.  Producing new habits for new results.

Thought Manipulation Exercise for Today:

Identify your habits.  What do you do automatically without thinking, such as brushing your teeth, fixing dinner.
List good habits and bad habits.
What part of your day is performing habits and what part is related to new experiences.  Are you spending more time in the “drone-zone” or taking advantage of new & different experiences ?  Are you taking advantage of evolving and improving ?

Plan to change the percentage of your time that you stay in the drone-zone, to taking advantage of new experiences.  Observe your results.

 

That’s the end of Chapter 1 for today !  Stay tune for the summary of Chapter 1.  And don’t forget to do your exercise above !

 

 

 

 

 

Could your procrastination or disorganization be affecting others’ lives ? It’s been said, you don’t care !

As we all know, there’s those who are fairly organized 24/7 and on time, and those who are the total opposite.  Yet, there are so many aspects of all over our lives that requires that we be on time !  The #1 one requirement is usually work.

Our jobs need us to be on time for many reason !  In reality, tardiness affects everyone. 

1)      Being late, often causes others to have to stand around till the late comers “decide to” arrive ! 

      2)      Not only loss of time, there’s company money (possible bonus)

3)      And … To show respect of others time/money !

 

An article from CBR, Creative Business Resource:

“What does tardiness do to a company?  Does it really make any difference to anything?  Do happy employees with relatively unstructured days truly produce more effectively?  Is widespread, chronic tardiness of any major concern to the welfare of the company or even to the welfare of the staff?

Although not customarily acceptable in our society, chronic, minor tardiness is largely ignored in most companies, but tardiness can be a sign of significant productivity loss, of employee low-motivation or satisfaction, and of ineffective or unhealthy management techniques.

If that employee is 15 minutes late every day, his direct cost to the company would be $4,692 per year, based on a 48 week work-year for lost productivity.  Of course, in all likelihood, that employee would expect to see at least a $5,000 annual raise in his pay envelope for the next year (if the company’s lucky).  What a coincidence!  Management already gave it to him and just threw it away!”  And folks wonder WHY companies can’t give you a raise !

You can view the rest of the article:

http://cbri.com/tardiness

 

Another article, Professor’s House-life-home-memories:

“Chronic tardiness problem … Put you in a perpetual state of chaos and haste, but you may convey a message to friends and coworkers that you do not value their time … a sign of disrespect!

When you make a commitment to another human to show up for work at 9 AM or meet at the local coffeehouse at 10:15, you are telling them – yes…I’ll be present to meet and spend time with you. With your job, you are establishing yourself as available for work, production, listening, and critical thinking. With a friend, you are allowing shared time for talking and listening, perhaps even problem sharing. When you are late to arrive, you cut into that promised time because something else has captured your body and mind.

This “something else” keeps you from holding your commitment to another person, and it is keeping you from them because you choose to let it. Yes, you alone allow that other ‘thing’ to control you and that is what prevents you from keeping an appointment.

Please note, once you are late over and over again, you are giving yourself this label … A label that you do not have the respect of others to be on time.  If you are sitting there saying that you do have this respect, then also know, unless YOU CHOOSE TO PROVE IT, then others will then determine your action on their own !

You not only does being late cause havic in your own life, you are causing it for others.  You cause others to get behind on their schedule.  Just the fact that you are late, causes added anxiety for the person waiting !

If want YOU ARE CHOOSING TO DO affects others, then it’s not only your life you are affecting !  And just cause folks don’t tell you, they could be just trying to hold down their anxiety from getting worse than it is !  Or they’re not bringing it up, cause they are possibly tired of hearing themselves repeat this to you over and over, for you to NOT HEAR IT ONCE AGAIN !

If you say you don’t really care what others think ?  WE ALREADY KNOW THAT !  YOU’RE LOUD AND CLEAR !  You don’t choose to respect others and you come 1st.

You can view the rest of the article:

http://www.professorshouse.com/Relationships/General/Articles/Being-Tardy---A-Sign-of-Disrespect/
 

Ready to stop habits ?  A Life Coach can help you with tardiness, procrastination, and organization if you truly want to change … Whether it’s for the benefit of others or to help make your life less hectic !

 

 

Predicted that more men will watch this season of the Bachelorette

Some folks love "reality shows", yet others to do not.  For those who don't ... Consider being open minded, especially if you enjoy opportunities to learn a few of life's lessons for FREE.

Even if you may not learn what you should do, you can take advantage of what you SHOULD'T DO, while watching "reality shows" !

For example "Wife Swap".  On almost every show, their are opposite types of families.  It many cases, one of the families is probably like your family.  And on almost each show, both sides learn something from the experience.

On this seasons Bachelorette, Boston.com predicts more men will watch.  If they haven't thought of it, I truly believe they should consider !  It ought to offer a lot of FREE COACHING lessons/tips.  The DO's and DONT's in courting !  The DO's and DONT's of what women like and don't like !

Here's Boston.com article.
http://www.boston.com/entertainment/tv/2014/05/15/the-bachelorette-reasons-why-this-season-may-the-best-one-yet/zopt6Ock8ZqLKXqcEcXP9H/story.html

If no other reason for guys to watch .... There's Andy !


Enjoy !

Time Management - There never seems to be enough time !

Time.  We seem to have so little of it !

In most cases, you have more than yourself to take care of and consider !  Sometimes it can be a pure juggle in getting everything done !

Often, just changing a few habits can help save you a little time !  You would be surprised how a little Time Management can make things run more smooth.  Here's 2 for today !


How many times a week do you open mail at home ? If more than twice, consider saving more of your time, and schedule select days to open.

How many times a month do you pay your bills ? If more than four times, consider saving yourself time, by scheduling only one day a week. To save even more time, consider only the 1st & the 15th (or such days).