Look around. As much as we love and rely on our God, our country and our families, life is touch ! Each day we get up to face new dramas or finish dealing with the ones from yesterday.
Many folks have their partner or family to rely on, in their time of need and stress; which is great ! So if we already have all this other support, why do we even need friends ?
What is a friend ?
From Free Dictionary:
1. A person whom one knows, likes, and trusts; an acquaintance.
2. One who supports, sympathizes with, or patronizes a group, cause, or movement.
From Dictionary.com: A person …
1. Attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard.
2. Who gives assistance; patron; supporter.
3. Who is on good terms with another; a person who is not hostile.
If you don’t have friends outside of your family, consider thinking a little out of the box for a moment … Ever considered …
1) That sometimes, even our family may need a break from our stress !
If you have truly not thought about this, I hate to be the one who has to announce to you, that this is actually selfish on your part. Expecting your partner to be everything to and for you, is actually a lot of you !
2) We can’t actually expect our family to understand other aspects of our lives, like our job. The best person to understand this is truly a co-worker !
I personally know of no one in my life, who could ½ grasp anything about my main business, which is “cruise specialist”; unless you are in this industry, you wouldn’t have a clue of what it is like behind closd doors (I actually try to keep the door shut to keep you from knowing) ! Especially since my business is suppose to be, all about happy, right !
3) That maybe an outsider to the family can offer that different perspective with some valuable input ! Sorry if this offends you, but could it possibly be TIME to get another point of view in your life, other than family !
“The greatest healing therapy is friendship and love.” Hubert H. Humphrey quotes (American 38th US Vice President under Lyndon B. Johnson).
“Words of comfort, skillfully administered, are the oldest therapy known to man.”
Louis Nizer.
Personally, I choose to think out of the box a litter further ...
4) If we’ve not made friends, who can we expect to be there for us, when our partner or family is gone ?
No one may want to think like this, but reality is real ! And there’s no better time to keep reality in perspective than NOW !
This is my main reason, why I have chosen to keep our circle of high school friends together. Not so much just for me ! I’m actually think of them, very seriously ! I’m thinking, who will be there for my classmates, when the person they’ve had to rely on for years, is no longer there !
If we’re lucky, we have all sorts of different group of friends in our lives. In my life, I have co-workers, staff, regular friends, family friends, high school classmate friends, and now, have begun a new group of LYH lady friends, to expand my circle even more.
ESC2ACT (Expanding Sister Circle to act charitably together).
I’m about to begin a new group, but for now, go here, and join this face book group.
So yes, enjoy your partner and family, but REMEMBER to keep your circle of friends OPEN and continuously multiplying ! Friends come and go so we're always needing to build more !
ALSO REMEMBER, to have a friend, you have to know how to BE A FRIEND ! It can’t be all one sided … all about you … your stresses … your situation !
Being a good friend is about being reliable, kind- hearted and thoughtful, so …
Be real
Be honest
Be loyal
Be respective
Share (be selfless)
Watch out for your friend
Pitch in for friends during times of crisis
Give thoughtful advice when asked but don’t expect friends to do as you say
Listen
Step back and give your friend space
Don't be selfish. Grabbing, stealing, envying and/or begging are big nos in the rules of friendship.
Be forgiving when things go wrong in your friendship.
Live by the golden rule.
Seek to deepen your friendship over time.
Be trustworthy.
Go beyond the call of duty.
For their full story:
http://www.wikihow.com/Be-a-Good-Friend
Sadly, I have family and I even have friends who do not know how to be a friend ! Often folks are like this; they need you to listen to them and then they are busy when you need someone (maybe because I’m a Life Coach, that’s what they expect or need from me ?). Again, another great reason to continue to build your circle.
No matter, REMEMBER, it’s never too late to learn how to be a friend and to choose to grow with your circle ! Days rush by, so don't put this off; Start today, BEFORE you need that special someone by your side ! And KNOW, the folks you befriend, could deeply need "you" too !
If you have a partner who does not want you to have friends or tells you that others are not really on your side ... KNOW, this is a form of control ! Choose to take me seriously, and see my 11 lessons earlier in my blog, on “abuse”. And reach out to me (or a friend) with needed guideance.
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