3 Valuable tips for the week – Writing is good for the sole; Organization can be your savior; and Procrastination can be your doom !

Remember, "writing is good for the sole " (and I don't mean the soles of your feet). It’s a way to express your feelings without ever speaking to anyone !  You can write a journal; write on facebook; write a poem; or just write a letter to someone and never mail !  Get your feelings out !  Holding feelings in, can hurt you !

Facebook is a great place to express oneself.  Now I have begun a singles blog … It’s a daily journal.  I can write here; and other singles can too.  Get stuff off your chest !

http://blogsharingjourneys4singles.blogspot.com/

 

Remember, Organizations is a valuable tool !  I divide tasks over, days of the week, and weekends of the month. For me, this is, not only the way to get everything done, but it allows me to divide it up, instead of having it on ONE HUGH LONG LIST ! LONG LIST can often cause folks to run from themselves ! It is best to divide tasks up !

Other week, had someone call me “anal”, not only because I am so explicit, but because I write everything down.  From the name of the person, to what they said.  This has paid off BIG TIME for me, in my different jobs and responsibilities !  And too many folks depend on me to be organized.  I’m the person everyone calls on, to get a job done !

 

Remember, “Procrastination” can be ones worst enemy !  Unless I just haven’t figured out the answer to something, I seldom consider procrastination.  My life is very busy !  And if I put off something, next thing you know, something important steps in, and that task never gets done.

Example: I do not wait till April to do my taxes.  I have them done by mid-Feb !  For the last 2 years, it’s been good I have.  Last year my mom had a back operation and I had to be in Fla from mid-Feb to mid-March; and this year, I fly down tomorrow, because my father is sick.

Personally, I would never want the stress that goes with Procrastination !  My life has no time for procrastination; I go from one task to the next task.  And I believe in doing everything NOW, and only put things on a to-do-list, that I never plan to do (has no real value).

 

Need help with Organization and/or Procrastination, hire a coach !  Change is possible !

 

 

 

If it won’t effect your life in 5 years, then let it go now

I’m a little late, from last Wed, in posting on my Coaching blog.  I have been in a medical crash class all week. 

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Was with folks this week, in my medical class, when the topic of conversation led to, “Letting go of the small things”.

One person there, spoke up, and said she had gone to counselor, just a little while back, with assistance over this topic.  She said, the counselor told her, to ask herself this question in the future, when something is bothering her or someone has upset her:

Will this have any effect on my life in 5 years ?

If yes, then work with this situation.

If not, let it go.

 

Hadn’t heard this one before, so I told her, I was going to use this in my Coaching blog this week.

On a different note, I’ve always said >>> If you’ve done something that may be embarrassing to you, whether it be with peers or whomever >>> Remember, that in 2 weeks, folks usually will have forget all about it (this excludes situations that may have landed you in jail - but that's not considered "small)) !

 

It’s only natural, when things upset us or an incidence happens to us or you do something that you wish you hadn’t, that it can often weight heavy on our mind !  And often, we allow this to consumer our thoughts, over and over and over. 

Part of this is “habit”, because you may have always allowed situations to consumer your thoughts.  No matter, if you find that you can’t let something go, then seek a counselor, and with select topics, a coach can be of assistance.  Not letting go, can be unhealthy for you, and cause bigger problems !

 

 

 

 

To move forward in something that has been put off for too long

Do you have that something, that you have been putting off, that needs to get done or you need to accomplish ?

If you have several, for now, what was the first thing that came to your mind, when I asked the question ?

 

Procrastination.  All of us do it, however, some of us do it, like it’s a career !

It could be as simples as cleaning the bathroom or the garage or much larger as, get your masters degree or looking for that new job.

Many things can take place when you procrastinate !

1.    Miss deadline

2.    Continue to build up with stress

3.    Anger or frustrate others

4.    Make the issue bigger, literally and mentally !

 

First step, ask yourself, why are you putting it off ?

Could be just pure laziness !  Or can’t find the necessary time !

Could be financial !

Could be fear of change or fear of handling the task !

Could you not know what it is ?  Maybe it’s subconscious !

 

Whatever it is, being by taking baby steps !

Example. 

If it’s laziness, than why not, try handling the task during commercials of your favorite show or movie !  Best of both worlds !

If it’s financial, start by figuring out, where might you get some additional money. Save more ? 

If fear, make a list of what you are afraid of !  Next step, begin talking to yourself.  Fear, though real and should not be minimized, you can receive help of fear with a life coach.  Or with self-help, you can either learn to begin talking to yourself, and choosing to minimize the fear, or , you can make a list of what is the worst that “could” happen !  Other than maybe death (or maybe you think of others), hopefully your list will prove not to be as big as you thought it was !

The next step in making baby steps, is making a list, of all the steps, to get to your goal, even if it’s cleaning the bathroom, that you keep putting off.  You have to start somewhere, even if it is a simple task !

Then put each step on a calendar, of when you will get it done.  Such as, I will clean the bathroom every Monday night after work !  Or, I will clean the toilet on Monday, the sink on Tues, the floor on Wednesday, and the tub on Thursday.  Breaking the task up in smaller pieces, won’t make it so big !

Or the Garage.  One forth of the garage, per Saturday.  But again, you must be committed, or it could take you all year !

Or you masters degree.  One class a semester to include summer !

Remember, you must make yourself accountable and responsible.  Just like loosing weight; if you say you are going to do it, you need to do it !

 

And if you need additional help, reach out to a life coach !

Dealing with overwhelm and busyness

Surely, many a day, you get up and think, “How will I ever get it all done today ?”.

Sadly, this same sentence passes through many of our thoughts and minds each morning.

So what does a person do ?

 

Make sure you have at least done these 2 things the night before:

1)   Make a list (Include, if you must take your child to school; have to pack your lunch or the kids, etc … everything).

2)   Numbered, in order, which you will be doing first, up to the last tasks.

 

If you had not done this before, try this one day, and analyze, how this helped or how you can make better.  Now keep moving towards making your life less stressful ….

Next, night prior, take a re-look at your list.

1)    Who could you designate in doing one or more of these task for you (if there’s only you, I realize, there is no one else; if you, at least have kids, then retake a look at this list; if you have a spouse or partner, truly look at this list again) ?

2)   Is there a task you can put off till another day ?  Don’t get me wrong, every day you put off a task, just adds more tasks to another day.

 

If you were unable to make any changes, or even if you were … Keep moving towards, making tasks and duties more manageable.

1)   Look at your list and see if there is anything that you can eliminate; drop off your list ? Is there anything, that you can stop doing ? Or shall I say, is there something you must let go, to make your life less stressful.

2)   Next, take a list of all the things you have to do … Clean house, pay bills, open mail, etc.  Divide these things up over the week.  It’s more time management, to open all the mail on Saturday, than to open ever day !  It’s more manageable, to clean the bathroom on one day and wash the floors on another.  Spread out, instead of looking at the full picture on one day.

3)   Now, do you whole month this way.  What day could you pay bills ? Put this on your calendar (if it’s twice a month, then list two days).  What Saturday a month, could you designate to balancing your checkbook.  What day could you change the filter of your air condition or heater. 

4)   Now, you can even divide by the year.  What month must you cut shrubs (if twice a year, then designate).  What month must you buy clothes for the children for school.  What month must you buy your car tags.

 

If you can learn to plan out a full calendar year … Look at your month and divide your duties … And you week … And your day … And designate duties to others (even if it’s your kids and your partner, or maybe those in your club), and eliminate some, you will see the difference.

 

One more thing, you must find time for yourself.  Maybe it’s exercise, read a book, go have a massage.  And once you do this, and learn, NOT to break a date with yourself, this will help you mentally (help refresh you), in working with all your tasks.  Another thing is remembering vacation !

If you need more help, or need help in looking at dividing up all your tasks, contact a Life Coach !

I divide all my tasks up.  I am planned out, up to 2 years !  And 7- 30 days in advance.  Being single, and I didn’t do this, I would not only, not remember everything that must be done (to include the promises I make to my clients – Coaching and mentoring is NOT my main business/career), I would never  find time to do it all !