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He offers a 5-Part Strategic Intervention Mini-Training.
It’s to your benefit to view the entire series yourself. Or, you can ultimately choose the shorter version, by reading my summary below.
6 human needs:
1st 4 needs (needs of the personality - everyone meets them, even if you lie to yourself) are the most fundamental, which we must all have; the last 2 needs are what make you fulfilled (the needs of the spirit) and very few people are fulfilled
Tony Robbins believes success without fulfillment is failure !
PS. As soon as something meets 3 of your needs, you become addicted to it (doesn‘t matter if it‘s negative or positive)
1. Certainty. We all want comfort; avoid pain; have pleasure. Avoiding pain is a survivor instinct. Without certainty, we feel damage and that means death. The question is, how much do you need ? The more uncertainty you have, the more you will learn; the more you have to be certain about everything, the “less” you will have ! You can either “temporarily” give yourself a replacement, like thru food, or “tell yourself”, you have always find a way, and you’ll do it this time to ! So will you choose attainable or sustainable ! Everyone finds a way to “attain certainty” but can you sustains you, long term !
2. Uncertainty. We have a need for variety; for surprises that you want; cause surprises you don‘t want, you call problems. We need variety and the unknown to be alive ! That’s why we eat and smoke, etc (that‘s why people get addicted), to receive a new feeling ! Life is boring with more “certainty”. People who are variety driven end up with a different kind of life than those who are certainty driven ! Variety is available all the time; problem is, people want certainty more, and that’s why they are bored. Do you have problems, fears, or hesitations, that give you emotionally uncertainty ?
3. Significance. To feel important; to feel special; be needed; be unique. Every person has this need (whether negative or positive). Some people do this by achieving everything; by solving big problems; by having more money; more toys; being more christian; have more earings than anyone else; by unique hair style; by how they walk; how they talk; unique tatoos; their humor; trouble maker; being the best parent; by being tuff, no matter what someone does to you. Everyone finds away to be different, unique, or to be needed or to feel important ! A person can feel significant by having a significant big problem that you can share with everyone (ex. My high insurance); you don’t have to face your fear, cause now you’re significant, which is the choice most people make; it gives you opportunity to defend yourself, which makes you significant.
To be significant, it means you must be unique, which violates #4; the more different you are, the less connected you are
4. Connection/Love. Most people settle for connection, cause it’s less scary ! You hurt yourself for life, if never risk yourself to love; keeping it far away. It’s easy to get connected; fastest way to get connected is have a “problem”.
When you succeed, often people loose their connection of their significance in the world; rather than work hard and get more for themselves, which takes time, it’s faster to just tear you down !
Most people can get a connection (have a problem, be sick, be loved, make love, through prayer, through nature), but not at level they want, usually 3 or 4 our of 10; enough connection to not to do anything about it.
5. Growth. If you don’t grow, you die ! Everything in the universe grows or dies.
6. Contribution. You must contribute beyond yourself. Life is not all about you. You can feel temporary pleasure when something happens to you or for you, but that’s temporary. Everything either contributes or eliminated by evolution.
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