Different between Coaching and Therapy

Jill Kennedy-Broughton describes ....

COACHING versus THERAPY

Coaching ...
*  Focuses on actions and the Future                        
*  Assumes client is whole and capable of having a wonderful life
*  Client sees coach as a partner of equals to support their growth and efforts in order to create an even better life than they have now
*  Coach is responsible for the process; client is responsible for the results
*  Works to move people to a higher level of functioning.
*  Works for external solutions to overcome barriers, learn new skills and implement effective choices
*  Works with the conscious mind

In summary ... process, potential, purpose, and present to future.

Therapy ...
*  Focuses on feelings and Past events
*  Assumes client needs healing; explores the root of problems
*  Clients view therapist as the expert who holds the answers and technique to fix their problems
*  Therapist is responsible for the process direction and the outcome
*  Works with people to achieve self-understanding and emotional healing
*  Works for internal resolution of pain and to let go of old patterns
*  Works to bring the unconscious into consciousness  (From Vivian:  This can also be done with hypnosis)
In summary .... pain, problems, past


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Did you know, watching “Reality Shows” can actually teach many folks, well needed, “life lessons”.

The next time some tells you that they never watch reality shows, they may quickly, that one of their favorite shows, may actually fall under the title of “reality show”.  http://www.realitytvworld.com/realitytvworld/allshows.shtml

In listening to other folks, I’ve also heard statements like, I would never watch reality shows.  Well, take a look at below.  Watching a reality show, may be what the Dr ordered: A few of lives well needed lessons can subconsciously be learned/gainged !

 

Jay Chaffin, M.A., in Peace of Mind writes, “According to a recent study, 77 percent of Americans regularly watch at least one reality program, and of that number, the average number of shows watched is four.”

And … “One of the main benefits of watching these shows is seeing how happy and normal your own life is compared to those of the characters”.

It's a fact ... Folks watching others folks is how we have all, over the years, learned what we know !

 

Kelly McGonigal, Ph.D, Just give in, Phychology Today, says, “Two of the five indulgences that an actually boost self-control,  YouTube and reality television.   “Willpower is contagious.  Many reality shows feature people working hard to overcome obstacles as they lose weight, face their fears, or organize their clutter.”  The article concludes with “You can “catch” extra self-control just by watching someone pursue a goal.”

In essence, if you want to learn, less procrastination, watch a show that offers this; If you want to learn building self-esteem, you watch a show that promots this; and so on !

 

Nicole McDermott, Greatest.com says, “The good news is, some reality TV shows can motivate readers to work toward good health or social change”.  And, "The interactive viewing experience may be a big part of reality TV’s appeal.”

 

Folks are known to watch reality shows for many reasons:  Entertainment, fun, excitement, drama, just to name a few. 

Actually, many folks do not realize nor have opened their mind, in realizing, that much more, is often being learned, subconsciously, by watching Reality Shows !

If you’ve watched Survivor, many would agree, it can teach loyalty, strength, decision making, determination, will power, and more positive aspects. 

Many shows, such as Wife Swap, the Bachelor /Bachelorette, Big Brother, and others, can educate us all, on how others typically live; even habits, rituals, and cultures of others.  It can also remind us, how we would never want to live; or on the other hand, it could simply educate many folks on improving their own life or situation. Some shows, like Secret Millionaire, Amazing Race, and Teach, draw on inspiring messages.

The truth is, much of what we learned, is often brought about to us subconsciously.   When we least expect it or without realizing, insight can come to our lives; even that, which we may not have even known we needed.

Another highlight in watching Reality Shows, is in discover how other folks think; act; and react.  In return, it can gives us a chance at looking at ourselves and how we would have done, or not done, in the same situation; or how we could improve our self !

Often, there are folks on these shows, who are extremely kind, humble giving, compassionate, honorable, a great friend or spouse, and more.  Many life lessons can be learned from viewers who are open, in learning something from everyone !  

 

Wikipedia says, “Reality television is a television programming genre that presents purportedly unscripted melodramatic or "humorous" situations, documents actual events, and usually features ordinary people instead of professional actors, sometimes in a contest or other situation where a prize is awarded.  Reality television offers viewers a glimpse into the lives of people that might otherwise not be seen. It can also be seen as a platform for the subjects of the programs, to clear up misconceptions, and show their story or struggle.

 

Juli’s from ‘Applying psychology to every day life’ writes,  “From a social psychological perspective, reality TV is more than just mindless entertainment. It taps into some of our most basic psychological needs - the need to feel connected to others, the need to feel good about ourselves, and the need to understand social dynamics.” The need for relatedness and belonging is fundamental to human nature. We want to feel connected to other people, and we don't want to feel alone and isolated. Reality shows, true to their name, do provide many opportunities to relate. Researchers refer to this experience as common humanity - the awareness that the ways in which we personally suffer are shared by other people. This feeling can make us more compassionate towards other people and towards ourselves. We may also feel inspired by people who overcome obstacles and succeed in the end - upward social comparison gives us hope and motivates us to improve ourselves.”

There’s more:  “A self-esteem boost ... compare ourselves to people who are worse off than we are”

“We are programmed to look to our social environments to learn more about how they work - with the ultimate goal of navigating our own social worlds more skillfully. Of course, most of this occurs on a non-conscious level …Reality shows provide plenty of examples of what not to do … also show us what works - for example, how to build a genuine friendship with someone you're in competition with, how to stay strong in a stressful environment, or how to be resilient after failure .”

 

"Maybe the lesson learned from Oprah, that giving makes people feel good, can spread from one person to the next and start a domino effect, where everyone benefits," Oracle Think Quest Education Foundation

So next time you find yourself drawn to reality TV against your better judgment, just remember that there's a reason these shows pull us in. In addition to their pure entertainment value, they give us comfort, self-esteem, and sometimes even teach us something valuable. 


 

Loosing weight over 50 and bedtime snacks for better sleep

Article by Health Radar.  This was really good !

Talked about shifting your diet and of course excercise;
5 Great Weight-Loss Foods (I was shocked, milk was one of them);
Are You a Diabetes Time Bomb? and morehttp://w3.newsmax.com/newsletters/radar/issues/radar1/radar_radar1_1.pdf


6 Bedtime Snacks for Better Sleep  (getting and staying asleep ...
It listed here another shocker for me ... 

Oatmeal.  Though carbs do put me to sleep and I personally have to avoid them in the day, it’s amazing, that for years, it has been suggested, eat Oatmeal for breakfast; maybe this is why folks are tired once they get to work (even contains some melatonin) ! 

This article says, “Carbohydrates trigger insulin to move other nutrients out of the blood into cells, enhancing utilization of tryptophan. Oatmeal also contains calcium, some melatonin, and B6, a vitamin that is necessary for production of neurotransmitters”.

 

Also, this was posted on my facebook today.  It's like an online seminar, by a Dr in Palm Beach, Fla who truly wants to help folks avoid or get rid of heart disease - The Silent Killer.  This video is very imformative. 

Talks about raising HDL (the good cholesterol) and lowering inflammation and have more energy (Cut sugar and refine carbs, excercize, make time for stress release, cut fats, eat fruits and veggies, chick and fish are ok, with min red meat, and more); and of course, stop smoking.  He mentions the 4 things to know when a Heart Attack is coming on (one that is coming on in minutes or you get the signs a couple weeks in advance (he doesn't tell the whole story here).  He talks of folks, needing to get heart test over 50 - a full test and plaque test, to find out which LDL cholesterol you have; and that the total points on cholesterol is not the way to look at it; need to know the type of LDL.

He offers his free book and 2 articles which finishes explaining, the 4 things to know when a heart attack is coming ... you must sign up for his future monthly articles ... sounds like great info ... best part, you can cancel before they begin or whenever you want.  Seems like a no loose offer !

More importantly, why not take 30 min to see this video; could be what saves your life !  Seeing this, could actually be what wakes myself up more !

http://w3.newsmax.com/newsletters/crandall/video_4things.cfm?PROMO_CODE=10E0E-1

 

 

For years, we have been hearing weight loss.  Most often, our subconscious just won't let us move into the direction we need or want to be in. 

Here's where Hypnosis can come in very handy !  Whether it be self-hypnosis or hypnosis you get from a professional.  Often the subconscious has a "block" that won't allow ourselves to loose weight or get skinny.  Unless deep hypnosis regression is needed, a coach can help you !

Different People Come Into Our Lives For A Reason – Don’t cut yourself or others short, in your value, to those who cross your path !

(For some reason, this site is not allowing, the adding of pictures these days)


You’ve heard the saying, “Everything happens for a reason”.  It’s the same with meeting different folks that pass through your path.  We meet and encounter most every person, for a reason.

Four basic reasons come to mind, as to why folks come into our lives.

A.     Often, the reason is truly obvious; the reason is for you, right at this moment.  Maybe you run across someone who bakes cakes, and you had forgotten to order that birthday cake for your oldest child.  What a life savor !

However, there are many times, the reason is not obvious at all. Matter of fact, it could be years before you discover the reason, or just maybe, the actual reasoning never unfolds. Till then, just cherish that this friend who was brought into your life, because it is for a reason !

B. More than just often, folks are bought into your life for the benefit of another person in your life. You may have met this person, because someone you know, needed to meet this person. Again, you may learn this right away, or maybe it’s not ment to take place, till years down the road.

One concept comes to mind, “networking”.  Maybe you met and know someone through your networking, who makes bank mortgage, and down the road, your cousin is buying a house and doesn’t even know how to begin knowing how to finance their new home.

C.     Sometimes folks are brought into our lives, for lesson purposes.  This person could be a great role model or even a poor one, yet there may be lessons you are to learn from this person.

For example, maybe someone comes into your life who either, currently has cancer or has battled with cancer.  And you discover through this person, strength, that you could use learning for your life !  Or maybe you meet someone who mistreats their spouse, and it’s ment for you to learn more, the value of your own spouse.

D.     Another valuable, yet often, unknown reason, that people come into our lives, is because they need to know us !  What we bring to the table for them.  What we give to them, that inspires their life ! 

It’s true, if you are the cake baker, like in the example above, you know why this person was brought into your life.  Or maybe you are the person with cancer, who has a great attitude, which can be an inspiration for many !

What I really want to bring home to You more, is this 4^th concept ! 

None of us know, when someone has been brought into our life, for the benefit of your presence here for that other person.  They may be here for, the life lessons that you don’t even realize, that you can and will be offering to this person; whether it be things you’ve personally gone through or education you have received ! 

My real point here is, we were all put on this earth, not at all, just for the benefit of ourselves or just our immediate family.  There are many folks who need he attributes we were given, in helping others ! 

It could be as simple as being a strong shoulder or open ear !  Or maybe you are here for a tuff boss or customers, where you are the best person for handling their personality !  Maybe someone you encounter, just needs to see strengths that others hold !  Maybe there are folks that have a low self esteem or who may be suicidal, and you are just that person, who will change their life (without you ever knowing it).

Don’t cut yourself short in your value to others; more importantly, don’t cut others short in receiving your value. 

Next time someone invites you, to join them for a function, whether it be at church, at a networking meeting, at a party, a family or class reunion … This might be that very time, that your presence was ment to be, for the benefit in helping a person who crosses your path at this event; or maybe even the person who invited you !

It’s true, our lives are busy, and we can hardly keep up with what we need to get done !  But remember, it could be YOU who needed THEM (and don’t know it) !  It could be YOU that saves or makes an impression on their life (and never know it).

Everyone is here in folks life for a purpose.  It may never be obvious at all.  Take the time, to be conscious, in thinking about why each person you meet, could have a reason in crossing your path !  Cause there is a reason !  And that reason could be YOU FOR THEM ! 

You've also heard, it's better to give than receive ? This actually includes, the "sharing of yourself" with others !

Consciously choose to remember, that you are here, in the lives of others, for a purpose.  And try to remember NOT to deprive folks of having you in their life !   Next time you don't want to get up off the couch and get out, push yourself; follow that plan that may be ment for you to fulfil !




If you are female and live in the LYH area, come join our monthly social; There's most certainly someone there, who needs to meet YOU !  Join facebook group here:
http://www.facebook.com/home.php#!/groups/243309542450771/ 

Today is National World Hypnosis Day

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January 4 … Today is National World Hypnosis Day (below, complimentary resources).  

This National Day is for helping to remove the myths and misconceptions while promoting the truth and benefits of hypnosis to the people of the World; bring The Power of Hypnosis To the World.
 
Hypnosis can be a life-changing opportunity. A way you can choose to write new chapters in your life, put aside fears, and change what you believed was unchangeable.  Learn the truth about Hypnosis and how it can help you by visiting World Hypnosis Day website today, and sign up to receive complimentary Hypnosis Resources:  e-books and audios.
 
http://www.worldhypnotismday.com/

New Years Resolutions. Have you written and shared yours ?

What is yours ? 

Did you make any yet ?

Each year, many folks make resolutions.  Some are kept and some are not.

Make resolutions is a great idea !

It’s a great time for new beginnings !

New opportunities !

A new chance for expanding !

Working towards valuable goals !

 

About.com posted these 10 Top Resolutions

http://pittsburgh.about.com/od/holidays/tp/resolutions.htm

 

Everyone one of these can be accomplished !  If not on your own, reach out to a “Coach” in helping you get there faster !  Help you not stop !  Help you move forward !  Give you that boost and sense of obligation to yourself ! 

 

 

 

In essence … You deserve to accomplish what you want … And you deserve this to happen in 2013 !

Get pen and paper and begin your 2013 list NOW !