Who is the culprit in you having NO "free for YOU" time ? Believing there is NO time in life can gradually prove you right !

When you say you have No time for yourself, are you saying ….
There’s not enough hours and days, in a week, to get all tasks complete ?
Or …
Once you do everything, for everyone else, there’s just no left over time ?

Either answer, I’m sure, you even feel fairly rushed at times ?
And often figure that you can’t even stop or everything might literally just fall apart ?


All of the above, may totally describe your life !

STOP … Pretend just for a moment … A genie suddenly pops out of a lamp, offering you 3 wishes. You must choose 3 things, that if you had the time, you would opt to do. Choices can not geared towards another person, nor can you choose to eliminate, just another task on our to-do list.

Three wishes, just surrounded around YOU ! (1) _______ (2) ______ (3) _______


You can even place a check by these options too !
See that movie everyone is talking about ?
Read that book on your desk ?
Make time for more than just a haircut ?
Get your nails done ?
Get a message ?
Shop for some new clothes ?
Get your car washed and vacuumed ?
Take a long bath ?
Get away on vacation ?


Research proves that women of today are actually not as happy as they were in the 1970's ! There are more demands ! Whether it be as a mother, a daughter ! Whether its your carrier or taking care of or worrying for a sick/older family member ! Then there’s responsibilities in the community and all the activities your kids are involved in !

Yes, it is at times, a busy-crazy life ! And with life's higher expectations, it is actually others who are putting this on you, or is it YOU, putting this on yourself ?

If it’s “others”, then maybe it’s time to …
(1) Delegate some duties
(2) Reach out an ask for help
(3) Hire someone



Or maybe the fault 100% lies on You !

Do you feel it’s selfish to take or make any time for You ?
Do you live from one “should” to another or the next “should” ?
Do you find yourself “enabling” others ?
Do you cancel appointments with yourself cause others ask you to ?


Do you ever STOP and just listen to your body ?
Are you tired ?
Ache ?
Get run down ? Get colds ? Have headaches ?
Can’t sleep ?

Once you get down, who is then, going to take care of your responsibilities ? For you and for the benefit of others, it’s NOT worth you getting sick before you opt to wake up !

Balance, as my mother preaches, is important for all of us. Whether our lives are already too busy; Whether no one will give us a break; It’s a choice ! Otherwise, your life will prove to be exactly as you call it !

If you are the culprit, first commitment in helping yourself is to make a wish list, or call it a “goal list”, that you WILL accomplish for yourself.  Next commitment to yourself, announcing to others,  that you will be needing some time to get some personal tasks done.

Week 1, start with one hour a day of alone time; doing what you want.
Week 2, change this to two hours a day; do not split this into more than 2 sessions; with the 2^nd hour, you can opt to include others in your fun time; however, do not allow them to alter your choice task.
Week 3, add one entire evening; other can be included.
Week 4, if you are married, set at least one evening a month, that the two of you go out (don’t stay in) and invite no others ! (Also, you should plan one vacation a year, with only the two of you) Trust me !

Do this for 30 days, and it will automatically become a habit.  If you can not get through a month, consider hiring a coach !
　

Consider reading, “Your body can Talk” by Levy and Lehr
And a hypnotherapist can help you learn to read your body !

“Carving out a little solitude can make a world of difference. So go ahead—give yourself a break,” by Katrina Kenison.  Read more: http://www.oprah.com/spirit/Why-You-Must-Have-Solitude-and-Time-For-Yourself
5 Ways to take control of your time, by Redbook
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