Are you Co-Dependence to another person's mood or personality ?

Wikipedia definition:  Codependency is defined as a psychological condition or a relationship in which a person is controlled or manipulated by another who is affected with a pathological condition (typically narcissism or drug addiction); and in broader terms, it refers to the dependence on the needs of or control of another.[

 

This morning, as I listened to Joyce Myers, I loved her example of co-dependence.  I had never really heard co-dependence actually described the way she did.  She basically said, when your mood or your happiness, depends on whether another person is happy or in a good mood, that is your co-dependence !

Sadly, if you live with someone or work with someone whom you always have to stay on your toes with and keeps your stress and anxiety up, then you are one of the ones, who lives your life based on co-dependence.  You owe yourself a change !

Wanting to do your best or being your best for another is great !  However, if you are sad, cause they are sad; or you are miserable because they are miserable;  not only are you co-dependent on their mood or reaction, you aren’t actually having a mind of your own.

Choose to change this about you.  Wake up each morning and decide your own destiny or your own mood before ever coming in contact with this person.  And of course, make it a positive decision.  If you decide this prior, and decide, their mood will not affect yours, you will become stronger !

Think about it.  If you come in contact with someone in a bad mood, just feel sorry for them.  Don’t be angry at them; their mood or reaction has nothing to do with you or yours !  They are them and you are you !  Two different people !

They have their own right to feel the way they want to feel and you have your right to feel the way you choose (hopefully positive).   So don’t bother wasting your time in trying to change theirs; enjoy yours.

If you could choose to learn to be at peace inside yourself, and learn to ignore any negative persona that another has, you will be happier within yourself and actually with that other person (whether they are miserable or not).

And remember, role modeling.  Whether  you are able to help another with their poor personality or not, your only job is in being a good role model.  You need to first learn to be happy with yourself; be happy with your life; be at peace.  No person can ever learn from you, if you are not being a good role model.

Think about this a little deeper.  Try to truly see what I am saying here !

If you find, that you are happier or more at peace when you are NOT with that person who is miserable or you are allowing to make you miserable, learn to keep your positive personality and peace, when with them .  You can do this !

 

My last couple of days, being with my family, here at Christmas, is a great example, for me, of peace.  It’s been a long time, since I have enjoyed total peace, while with my family.  This tells me, that it is “me” who has learned; it’s not them who has changed; Cause I can see where at least one of my family members is still miserable !

 

Be good to yourself.  Find inner peace !  Ignore others and their personality; it does not have to effect you.  Keep singing inside your heart and you can overcome their mood !