Ever heard
of this ?
It’s real
! And in demand.
From Wikipedia
Dating
coaches offer coaching and related products and services to improve their
clients' success in dating and relationships. Through discussion, role-playing,
behavior modeling, and other forms of direction, a dating coach trains clients
to meet and attract romantic partners. Dating coaches may focus on topics
important to the art of dating: interpersonal skills, flirting, psychology,
sociology, compatibility, fashion and recreational activities. As dating
coaches are unlicensed, their methods vary widely.
Many folks
reach out to the internet, in helping to find a mate, only to discover, what
looked like a perfect match, didn’t turn out at all. Surely, many times, the other person, really
was not at all you thought they were going to crack up to be … OR … It could actually be YOU !
First a
coach will want to know what you want out of this process; where you are at and
where you want to go.
The coach
will also access you. This could include
your thoughts, your opinions, your intentions, and even the way you handle a certain
type situation.
You may choose to learn …
What may be
turning others off; what you are signalling.
Appropriate
dress; updated attire.
A new
approach to your personal outlook; a new way of thinking.
Turning
negative into positive.
More
confidence; putting yourself out there.
New tactics;
approaches.
Bad habits
that need to be let go.
What type of
person you really want; what you are seemingly going after.
WHO YOU ARE !
Sometimes,
the first step, in getting back into the grove of dating, is to first, take the
time, and discover, WHO YOU ACTUALLY ARE
! WHAT YOU REALLY WANT !
In reality,
the majority of folks out there, jump from one relationship to the next. ONE
FIRE TO THE NEXT FIRE ! Never stopping to breath; never stopping to look at the whole picture.
You’ve heard:
Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting
different results. Albert Einstein
This is literally true !
(1) Why would you THINK that … If your
last relationship did not work, that the next one will ?
Seriously ! OH, you could say,
well, he/she was a jerk … Or … I found them running around on me. All this may be true ! However, it goes deeper than this. Why were they a jerk ? Why did you not see that earlier before the
relationship got so deep ? Why did they
run around on you ? MY POINT: #1, if you can't figure out how to get along with one person, I'm telling you, if will not be any different with the next. And #2, Stop pointing
fingers at the other person; this is not about them; this is about YOU !
What part did YOU take in all
this ? If YOU don’t have these answers,
most definitely, seek a DATING (LIFE)
COACH ! If you have yet learned how
to analyze yourself or have opted in looking at yourself 1st, you most
certainly can’t analyze others, nor will get past this same hurdle !
(2) You may not be in sane as Einstein
mentions; you may not be crazy. You may
have the best personality in the World; you may be humble; You may be a total
positive person. But something is wrong
! If you don’t seem to be figuring this
all out on your own, then reach to a DATING
(LIFE) COACH !
Want to end
up alone ? Holidays, vacation, your days
off ?
Or maybe you will discover, that YOU DON'T WANT TO CHANGE OR LEARN ... Therefore, rather be alone !
That's my thing. I'm single too ! One problem for me, I don't want to change. I like being a work-a-holic. And I don't want, nor want to tolerate, another persons baggage. But again, that is personal choice. And if you have this same type choice, like me, then you have no reason to complain, not even to yourself, that you are alone. And do yourself and others a favor, STOP LOOKING. Stop putting yourself out there, only to keep hurting yourself and parties who a really looking for that sole mate for their life. Just accept yourself !
Reach out ! Help yourself !
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