This is just who I am. Expressions and feelings, need NOT consumer who you really are.

Over a month ago, I was beginning a new medical crash class.  We were on the topic of personalities, when one girl talked of how she gets angry extremely easily and then expressed, “That’s just who I am”.

In thinking this over, I began to wonder, does she visualize herself as a ball of anger ?  And though personality plays a part in who we are, it sounds like, her anger has the best of her; taken over who she may or could possibly be. 

Who you are, is also partly, how you feel about yourself.  As in this case, apparently, she admits, she’s an angry person.  This part is probably true.

However, this doesn’t have to make, “Who you are”, unless this is how you choose to be !

Meaning …

·         If you are angry about something, choose to deal with it, and move on.

·         If you are sad about something, choose to deal with it and move on.

·         If you have something on your chest, choose to deal with it and move on.

·         If you don’t like your job, choose to deal with it and move on.

 

What I am saying is, aspects in your life, that you either do not like or not so happy with, does not have to be “who you are”.  Either write out a goal plan in dealing with the issue or seek professional help, or reach out to a life coach (I'm not suggesting that "moving on" is simple; only that you need to deal with it and not make it "who you are").

 

Back to the lady above.  After being with this lady in class for a month, I learned that angry, was not only “not” who she was, but the true her, came out.  She was loving, caring, compassionate; on and on.  I personally was so proud, for her, to see all this !

Anger is what she had allowed herself, to not only feel and feel about herself, but she had apparently, allowed herself to be consumed by.  And possibly, others had described her this way, and she continued to say this to herself.

Anger, or anything negative, should not be, “who we are”.    It needs to be left, only as an expression of how we are feeling at the moment !